This opinion piece bu
Tim Kreider in the NYTimes,
The 'Busy' trap, resonated with me crazy hard. I can relate not just to almost every point he hits on, but in most cases from each side. For example;
I recently wrote a friend to ask if he wanted to do something this week,
and he answered that he didn’t have a lot of time but if something was
going on to let him know and maybe he could ditch work for a few hours. I
wanted to clarify that my question had not been a preliminary heads-up
to some future invitation; this was the invitation.
Ouch. Especially when I was working nearly full time and studying architecture full time, I dished this out more than I care to recollect. Now, as a gal who is regularly spending her mornings idly at the park with a baby and a cup of coffee, it hurts how often I receive it. Of course, this is kind of a forced down time. Were it not for Henry I would be editing photos, blogging, at a job full time, cleaning the kitchen counters, who knows. Point is this idle time leaves a LOT of things nagging at me to be done. But still. I am using it as an opportunity to shift my life more into what I would like it to be. Where I can make time for myself, my friends, my family, for nothing. Where it isn't even an issue of "making" time, but simply choosing that that is what our time is made up of, if that makes sense. Sure, we all have to make a living. But there is a balance, right? I have given a LOT of thought to this lately, like Kreider;
I did make a conscious decision, a long time ago, to choose time over
money, since I’ve always understood that the best investment of my
limited time on earth was to spend it with people I love.
Cheers to that.
