It's that time of year when I am loathing my hair and seriously considering chopping it all off, again. I know, I know. A few of you are going to say, but it has been looking so cute lately! And I would agree with you, it has.
At least sometimes. Other times, my hair looks like that of a semi balding 80 year old crazy cat lady.*
The truth is, I was such a tomboy, er, bohemian, in my formative years that I never learned proper grooming skills like styling my hair (and applying eyeliner, and shaping my eyebrows....). And so when my hair looks good, it's mostly luck. Not to mention my hair pretty much changed from mostly not curly to mostly curly as a young adult. I can often recreate the circumstances that yield good results (IE If I wash my hair before bed and don't take a morning shower it will look better than if I try and style it after a shower in the morning). But this is risky, and has me leaving the house feeling poorly about my looks far too often.
I keep trying new stylists, hoping one of them will give me "the cut" that works great with my hair. I try and explain my handicap and ask for help in learning to manage it at home, but thus far I remain challenged. When my hair is short, I see photos of it long where it looks good and I want to grow it out. What the photo does not show is the 300 days out of the year where my hair does not look so good. (Why would I keep that photo around?)
And so, I am torn. The pixie cut is so straightforward and pretty much always looks good. But I am such a tomboy in my dress it is nice to have a little more length up top, and when my curls DO work for me (the exception, not the rule), it can be fucking fantastic.
Any advice? Have you been able to learn later in life how to tame your locks? What helped?
*Ben Left posted the most AWFUL photo of me to instagram. I immediately asked him politely to delete it. He didn't. Isn't it funny how we see ourselves so differently than others? Anyways, I WAS going to actually link to it so you could see what I am talking about, but it seems that sometime in the last week he felt bad and deleted it, after all.
Photo of Jean Seaburg, of course.